Wonder Woman, it’s ok to Take off Your Cape
I just want to know, what are you doing to take care of yourself these days?
So often we are busting our chops to take care of the people around us that we love, that we care about. And whenever we are needed, we are there for them. But what happens when we need to be there for ourselves? What happens when we need to put our needs ahead of everyone else around us so that we have more to give? What happens when we need to ask for help?
So many of the chronic caretakers, myself included, have spent years putting other people before our own health and wellness. But what happens is we have nothing left to give.
This week I was working with one of my clients on this exact topic. Her name is Sarah.
(That’s not her real name cause I don’t like to give the real names of my real clients, but we’ll just say her name is Sarah.)
Sarah found out that her mom was in need of surgery and was going to have that surgery in the next week. Sara became a little concerned because of all the summer plans she had with her family and kids and also, how to take care of her mom. She absolutely wants to be there for her mom, but she also still wants to be there for her family.
She said to me, “I want to avoid being overwhelmed and being exhausted and being burnt out.” She new she had other siblings and their families that could help, but she is often the one that takes on everything for her mom and her family. In our coaching call she was asking permission to reach out to them and ask them for help.
And so I said, “Sarah, of course, it’s okay for you to reach out for help!”
In fact, it is the most responsible thing for you as a caretaker to honor that you don’t have to take on the whole world.
You don’t have to take on everything.
You don’t have to do it all.
So this is my reminder to you today, you don’t have to take it all on. In fact, reaching out for help is EXACTLY what you should do. You are worthy of it, and others are ready to step up to help, give them that gift.
Check out my recent Live video I did on this exact topic on Facebook.